Let's keep the session interactive. I know, even some people can take a nap with their eyes open. Encourage everyone to be interactive, participative and responsive. Some people still say "Mujhe khush karke dikhao!" with their partialy bloosmed face. Let's not do like that. Laugh, smile and talk as and when required. You may not unmute your mic but you can give a thums-up/down or use comments to answers etc...
The speech titled "The heck of successful and happy Life..."
Howmany of you want to become successful and happy ?
2 things are importants to succeed in life:
1. Domain knowledge is knowledge of a specific, specialized discipline. (specialists or experts) I am a software engineer, I need to be knowledgible about my field. This can be built, learnt, copied, acquired.
2. Second and the most imporatnt is the Soft Skill. What are softskills ? Any names ? ....decisive, positive attitude, Joyfullness, trust worthy, confidance, quick learner, jovial, .... All are correct....
When transition happens from institution to industries what are the main criteris the recruiter looks at. Anyway students are mainly freshers so from where do they get much domain knowldge? They see these soft skills..... Quick learner, team player, ploblem solver, quick in understanding the problem, better responding to situations, Motivational power, go along with people, confident, creative etc etc.... These are the skills which are difficult to learn, copy, built, acquired...If you analyze deeper then the first skill is based on the second skills. If someone has a good soft skills then they can easily acquire domain knowledge...So soft skills are the most important skills which one can have.
From where does softskills comes? It comes from mind. Is not not correct? Somone is confidant, Is it from body or mind or from outside? We can observe someday we feel happy and confident but someday not. It is based on the state of mind. Creativity is also from mind. Problem solving, team player... all are from Mind only....
Now the most important is how much we know our mind? I did my MS, post that I am thinking why did I do that? Without knowing how does mind works, can we utilize the mind as it's best? Knowing or understanding mind is one step and then using different faculties of mind are the next things. Once we reach there then we are the master of our mind. Can we be happy without knowing our mind? can we be confident without knowing our Mind? Mind is one thing which can be a best friend or it can be a most deadly enemy. May of the suicide cases are because of the bad mind, mind becoming enemy of ourself. "Man ke jith me jith hai, man ke har main har"
OK, Let's do an exercise to understand the mind. Close your eyes, Both eyes please. Anybody here with third eye? the God of gods Shiva has a 3rd eye.... Safe...do not worry. Just thingk about anything but not about Dog. Possible ? It is YOUR mind, YOU are thinking.... but surprisingly always Dog comes into you thought. "What you resist will persist" ...Rule#1 of the Mind. Tell a child not to put hand in a box, but the child will do nothing but put the hand there. .... Do fasting but do not think about chocolate....Possible?
Mind stays in past always...It renders in past memories... Went to a birthday party, everyone appreciated to your dressing sense but one person gave a negative comment. You came home and what you think about is that One and only one negative comment....Is it logical to think about that one thing ignoring all other positive comments ? No...but still our mind think about that. Rule#2 of mind, Intellectually you cannot deal with mind.
Raise your hand who wants to leave bad habbits ? Negative emotion, over thinking etc etc...Good news is that "we are not alone". Bad news is that "everyone has problems"
When I say live in the present, do not think about past, it does not look feasible. Sometime even consciously also we cannot concentrate on the present. Snap the finger and mind is in the present. Try to think about the past while snaping your finger ? Possible ? Only espect which lies in the presnt is your breathing. It just runs in present and only in present.
So the trick to be happy and peaceful is to keep your mind only in the present. How is that possible ? Somehow connecting the mind with breath. That is the heck, is to connect your mind with your breath and it is all present for you always
Breath ---> Mind-----> Present
Anger - Short & fast breathing
Depressed - No inhale but long exhale
Happily smelling a rose - full inhale and exhale
1 crore - Aap ke screen mai ye raha
Very fearful (Lezard/cocroch) - Breath stops ...
Every emotion has a corresponding breathing pattern. ....If emotion can change breathing the reverse is also possible. Breathing can change your emotion.
How to deal with breathing? All your education has failed on this.
Manythings may not go in your way. Changing some situation also not in your capability evel as well. But ofcourse you can change your mind or breathing. You are in a 5* hotel and all set for a big party but got a bad news..No fun. Where do we live? We live in mind.
Is the body worth living? Make it healthy and happy
After Medtation a fresh mind ....to purify the mind.
After bath a fresh body
to be continued......
....Mind...meditation,
Asana for body .....
Write the profound story about the junglee man who used to burnt Sandle wood to sell coal befroe the king enlightne him.... Let's not waste precious thing in life ....
============Speech Version ==============
🎯 The Heck of a Successful and Happy Life
Good morning, everyone!
Let’s keep this session alive. I know some of you can take a nap with your eyes open—true talent! And some still sit with a half-bloomed face saying, “Mujhe khush karke dikhao.” But today, I’m not here to entertain—I’m here to awaken.
So smile, laugh, nod, comment, react. You don’t need to unmute your mic, but you do need to unmute your mind.
Let’s begin with a simple question:
**How many of you want to be successful and happy?**
Raise your hand. Or raise your eyebrows. But raise something!
Now let me reveal the heck—the real trick—behind success and happiness.
### 🧠 Two Pillars of Success
1. **Domain Knowledge**
The specialized skill. The technical expertise. I’m a software engineer—I need to know my craft. This can be built, learned, copied, acquired.
2. **Soft Skills**
The invisible power. Confidence, joyfulness, trustworthiness, creativity, decisiveness, adaptability. These are not taught—they’re cultivated.
When students transition from college to corporate, recruiters don’t expect deep domain knowledge. They look for soft skills.
- Can you learn quickly?
- Can you solve problems?
- Can you work with people?
- Can you stay motivated?
And here’s the twist:
👉 If you have strong soft skills, you can easily acquire domain knowledge.
But the reverse? Not so easy.
### 🧠 Where Do Soft Skills Come From?
They come from the **mind**.
Confidence is not in your muscles. Creativity is not in your bones. Problem-solving is not in your blood.
It’s all in the mind.
But how well do we know our mind?
I did my MS. And then I asked myself—why?
Without understanding how the mind works, how can we use it to its fullest?
The mind can be your best friend—or your worst enemy.
It can lift you to joy—or drag you into despair.
Many suicides happen not because of life—but because of the mind becoming our enemy.
> “Man ke jeet mein jeet hai, man ke haar mein haar.”
### 🧘♂️ Let’s Do a Mind Experiment
Close your eyes. Both eyes, please.
Anyone here with a third eye? Shiva’s got one—we’re safe.
Now think about anything—but NOT about a dog.
Try it.
And what happens?
The dog walks in. Wags its tail. Sits in your thought.
Why?
> “What you resist will persist.” — Rule #1 of the Mind
Tell a child not to touch the box—they’ll touch it.
Do fasting—but don’t think about chocolate.
Good luck.
### 🕰️ Rule #2: The Mind Lives in the Past
You go to a party. Ten people praise your outfit. One person criticizes.
You come home—and think only about that one comment.
Is it logical? No.
Is it real? Yes.
Because the mind doesn’t follow logic—it follows emotion.
Raise your hand if you want to leave bad habits, negative emotions, overthinking.
Good news: You’re not alone.
Bad news: Everyone has problems.
### 🌬️ The Breath-Mind Connection
Snap your fingers. Try thinking about the past while snapping.
Can’t do it.
The only thing that exists in the present is your **breath**.
So here’s the heck:
**Connect your mind to your breath. That’s the gateway to happiness.**
Breath → Mind → Present
- Angry? Short, fast breathing.
- Depressed? Long exhale, no inhale.
- Smelling a rose? Full inhale and exhale.
- Fear? Breath stops.
If emotion can change breath, breath can change emotion.
Your education may not teach this. But your experience will.
You may not control the situation. But you can control your breath.
You may not change the world. But you can change your mind.
We live in the mind.
Let’s make it a good place to live.
After meditation, the mind is fresh.
After a bath, the body is fresh.
Both are needed. One purifies your thoughts. The other, your skin.
### 🔥 The Story of the Jungle Man
Once upon a time, in a dense forest, lived a man who burned sandalwood to make charcoal.
He sold the coal for pennies, unaware of the priceless fragrance he was destroying.
One day, a wise king visited. He saw the smoke, smelled the scent, and asked, “Why burn what is precious?”
The man replied, “I need to survive.”
The king said, “Survive, yes—but not by wasting your treasure.”
That man was burning his potential.
Just like we burn our peace, our joy, our breath—for temporary gains.
Let’s not waste the sandalwood of our life.
Let’s not sell coal when we carry perfume.
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So, my friends, the heck of a successful and happy life is not in your degree.
Not in your designation.
Not in your destination.
It’s in your **mind**.
It’s in your **breath**.
It’s in your **present moment**.
Master that—and you master everything.
Thank you.